As they made their way toward Jerusalem for the Passover celebration, the tension among the Twelve grew steadily. They had already argued as to which of them was the greatest (Mark 9:33-34). Jesus addressed their argument by teaching them a servant spirit was how greatness was measured in the kingdom (Mark 9:35-37). His teaching, however, did not end their argument. It just pushed it underground. It is not surprising, then, that the tension erupted again. This time, it surfaced in anger, creating division among them as the ten turned on James and John (Mark 10:41).
The anger and division were triggered by what James and John did. Note: what they did triggered the division; it did not cause it. The cause of the division was the competition among them over who was the greatest.
James and John had approached Jesus in private to ask for a special privilege. Anticipating that Jesus would declare himself to be the Messiah when they arrived in Jerusalem (which reflected how little they knew him or understood his teachings), James and John had asked to be given the two key positions in the kingdom he would set up—“Grant us to sit, one on your right hand and one at your left, in your glory” (Mark 10:37). Their request was a continuation of the earlier argument about who was the greatest. It was an attempt to cut Peter out of consideration as he seemingly took on a leadership posture among the twelve. They argued that they, as Jesus’s cousins, would be better suited than Peter to serve alongside Jesus as his most trusted aides. (Their mother was a sister to the mother of Jesus.)
When the other disciples learned what James and John had done, they predictably reacted with anger. They were not just mad; they were furious.
Once again, the disciples are a mirror that helps us see ourselves. We see in them the conflict and division we experience politically in our nation as well as in our personal relationships. More importantly, we see the thinking that gives birth to such conflict and division.
On the surface, conflict and division appear to be about our differences. In reality, they are about how we think about our differences. Conflict and division are the natural expressions of the way the world has trained us to think.
The thinking that unconsciously shapes our lives and our society divides the world into us-them categories. It uses differences to separate us, ignoring how we are alike. In the division that developed between James and John and the other ten disciples, the difference had to do with family ties. James and John had them with Jesus; Peter—and none of the other nine, for that matter—did not. The diversity God designed into the world offers us an unlimited source of differences we can use to divide ourselves into us-them categories—and, it seems, we take advantage of many (most) of them: ethnicity/race (white supremacy), gender (patriarchy), sexuality (anti-LGBTQ), religion (Christian nationalism), political positions (MAGA/Libs), positions on moral issues, education, socioeconomic status, societal background (urban/rural).
Us-them thinking and relating naturally leads to comparing-and-competing along with the better than, less than thinking that fuels it. As we focus on how we are different, we inevitably ask, “Who is right? Whose way is best?” It is a variation of the disciples’ argument of “who is the greatest?” To be “right” is to be the greatest. Of course, our answer to the question is always “my way is right.” To reinforce our sense of being “right”—i.e., the greatest—we build connections with others who think like we do. We create tribes and echo chambers that validate our thinking as being the only “right” way to think. These allies reinforce our sense that we—and those who think like us—are not only “right.” We are “the greatest.”
Us-them thinking produces the conflict and division that—apparently—are a normal, unavoidable part of human relationships. Our comparing and competing creates a win/lose mentality as well as a culture and society structured around winners and losers. The winners enjoy power and position—what James and John were seeking. The winners use their power and position for their own personal advantage, always at the expense of the losers. Protecting their power and position is a priority. The losers are stuck in a one-down, powerless position, seeking ways to reverse the situation—such as James and John’s end run on Peter. In this us-them, comparing and competing world, the underlying questions are “who’s on top”—i.e., who is the greatest—and “what does it take to get to the top?”—i.e., to be the greatest.
While Jesus recognized these kinds of relational dynamics were at play in both his disciples and in the world, he chose not to engage in them. A different way of thinking shaped how he lived—thinking shaped by the character of God and the ways of God. Jesus understood that greatness was not about power and position. Rather, true greatness was about how one uses power—i.e., the servant spirit. The apostle Paul called Jesus’s way of thinking “the mind of Christ” (1 Corinthians 2:16). He called us, as the followers of Jesus, to embrace the mind of Christ (Philippians 2:5-11).
As we walk this Lenten journey, we see in the experience of the disciples the stark difference between the way the world trained us to think and the thinking that underlies the kingdom of God. The journey calls us again to embrace the mind of Christ. It calls us to set aside how the world trained us to think and live—the us-them, comparing-and-competing, better than-less than, winners and losers thinking that produces conflict and division. It invites us to walk with Jesus in the way of the servant.
Prayer for the Lenten journey: We see ourselves in
the disciples, merciful God—and what we see is not pretty! Help us to see in
Jesus the beauty of your servant nature and your ways of grace. Create within
us a deep love for you and your ways—a love that captivates our hearts, minds,
and souls—a love that moves us beyond how the world has trained us to think—a
love that breaks the power of the self-serving, what’s-in-it-for-me spirit that
enslaves us. Teach us how to win by losing.